Impossible to Please
Have you ever come across the impossible to please person?
Perhaps you were born to such a person, or gave birth to such a person, or you work for one, or you married one, or someone in your family married one or befriended one, or you moved next door to one, or you carpool with one, or… any number of other circumstances that could have brought one in to your life.
This particular person is toxic in general, but more so if you are someone who tries to please others.
(There is nothing wrong with enjoying the feeling of making others happy. That’s a good thing. Needing to please the ‘impossible to please’ is another thing altogether.)
These kinds of people may be unhappy, or they may be snobs, or they may be just plain old mean, whatever the reason, all you need to know is that they cannot be pleased, no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try.
The ‘impossible to please‘ will find fault or insult whenever they can. They will try to divide and conquer by turning people against each other. Instead of finding the best in people or assuming the best of intentions, they look for the worst in others.
Time has taught me that once you identify the impossible to please people in your life, if you have any, it is best not to try. They are like quicksand, the harder you try to please them the deeper they will drag you down.
You don’t need people like these in your life. You may need to be polite with them and tolerate them because you cannot change the circumstance that brings them into your life, but you don’t need to give them any greater importance or power in or over your life than they deserve.
Accept the fact that there are people in the world who are incapable of being pleased; who judge others by superficial standards; who have a self-perception of greater importance than those around them; who assume the worst in others… and then let them go. Let go of the ideal version of them that you had in your head or the ideal relationship you hoped you would have with them someday.
It’s not you, it’s them.
You are not going to change them. Don’t let them change you. Continue to be the loving, kind, and accepting person you are. You don’t need to be liked by people who can only feel good by making others feel bad.
As much as you may not wish to do it, sometimes you have to let toxic people go from your life, at least, let them go emotionally.
Instead, focus your thoughts, love and energy on those who enrich your life and make your world a better place. I bet if you look around, you will find plenty of those.
Martie Hevia (c) All Rights Reserved